My 32-year-old stepdaughter lost her job and wants to move back in with us. She’s a lazy person who always takes advantage of her dad’s kindness. So, I told her she would have to pay rent to live here because her dad’s house is not a free hotel! She smirked and then shouted, “You’re very wrong. This is MY dad’s house; you have no say in this!”

When I told her dad, he declared, “Throw away your mother’s things from the spare room then and make room for my daughter.” To my horror, he added, “Your mother comes and stays with us every once in a while, rent-free, so why shouldn’t my own daughter be allowed to?” I explained to him that my mom only stays for a day or two, while his daughter is a manipulative woman who will enjoy the rent-free home and never leave again. But he refused to listen to me. I feel insulted and treated like a stranger in my own home. What should I do?

Yours, Claudia