{"id":2717,"date":"2024-08-05T10:38:52","date_gmt":"2024-08-05T10:38:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amazinggstory.fun\/?p=2717"},"modified":"2024-08-05T10:38:52","modified_gmt":"2024-08-05T10:38:52","slug":"my-ex-husbands-new-girlfriend-found-my-number-to-ask-me-just-one-question-when-i-read-her-text-i-was-stunned","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amazinggstory.fun\/?p=2717","title":{"rendered":"My Ex Husband\u2019s New Girlfriend Found My Number to Ask Me Just One Question \u2014 When I Read Her Text, I Was Stunned"},"content":{"rendered":"

My story revolves around how my ex-husband\u2019s girlfriend uncovered a truth about him that I had grown too comfortable with during our marriage. Through one significant question, she taught me a valuable lesson about self-love after reaching out to me unexpectedly.I\u2019ve been divorced for five years now, and navigating life post-marriage has been an interesting journey. My ex-husband, Ben, 48, and I, 45, were together for 13 years and had two wonderful kids. Even after our split, we\u2019ve managed to stay on good terms.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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We co-parent effectively despite our marriage having its ups and downs. Ben and I are best friends and have also maintained a friendship that surprises most people. Our divorce wasn\u2019t messy; we simply wanted different things out of life. Yesterday was our eldest\u2019s 16th birthday, and we decided to celebrate with a family dinner. Ben has been seeing someone new, a woman named Lisa, for about four months. He told me about her as soon as their relationship got serious. Transparency was part of our agreement to keep things open and honest for the sake of our children. He asked if he could bring Lisa to the birthday dinner, and while I wasn\u2019t thrilled as I would have preferred to meet her one-on-one first, I didn\u2019t want to cause any drama or be intrusive. So, I agreed. On that fateful day, I finally got to meet Lisa, who was friendly and eager to make a good impression, which was a relief. I preferred her to be a good person if she was going to be around my children.She had a kind smile and immediately struck up a conversation with me about the kids\u2019 school and activities. I could tell she was trying hard to fit in, which I appreciated. As the evening went on, I noticed how attentive Lisa was to Ben. It was sweet but also a little unsettling because I never saw that side of him during our marriage. I chalked it up to new relationship energy and tried to focus on the kids and the celebration. Halfway through dinner, things got weird when my eldest handed me a birthday card from her father. This caught me off guard because my birthday was months ago. No one usually remembers it, and Ben has never been one to recall such occasions. Don\u2019t get me wrong, my children\u2019s father is a great man. But he\u2019s really terrible with things like anniversaries, birthdays, or any special occasions. During all the years we were together, Ben never got me a present or card. It was also my responsibility to handle events like the kids\u2019 birthdays, Christmas, and more. His forgetfulness didn\u2019t bother me. I thanked my daughter, feeling touched by the gesture.Lisa, sitting across from me, saw my surprise. I had assumed she\u2019d made him get it, but then I noticed how she was giving me these funny looks. Unsure what they meant, I decided to mingle with other guests to avoid the awkwardness. But, Lisa somehow managed to get my attention. \u201cBen mentioned he\u2019s not great with birthdays,\u201d she said with a chuckle. \u201cHe forgot mine a few weeks ago. Is it intentional?\u201d I laughed, remembering all the missed anniversaries and forgotten special days. \u201cI have no idea, Lisa, but 13 years of marriage and two kids wasn\u2019t the benchmark because he never really got the hang of it,\u201d I replied. \u201cIt\u2019s just who he is.\u201d Lisa seemed disappointed and tried to hide it, but I thought nothing of it and wandered off to talk to other guests. The rest of the evening went smoothly, and we all parted ways with smiles and hugs. Later that night, as I was getting ready for bed, I received a text from an unknown number. It was my ex\u2019s new girlfriend. \u201cHi, this is Lisa. I got your number from Ben. I hope it\u2019s okay to text you. I wanted to ask you something.\u201dCurious, I replied, \u201cSure, what\u2019s up?\u201d Her response came quickly and when I read it, I was stunned. She hadn\u2019t gotten over our brief conversation earlier and was asking if Ben\u2019s forgetfulness of special occasions was something that could be fixed. \u201cI know this might seem odd because we touched on it earlier, but I need to know\u2026\u201d \u201c\u2026Does Ben ever improve when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries? I don\u2019t want to make a big deal out of it if it\u2019s something that won\u2019t change.\u201d I stared at my phone, feeling a mix of emotions. Part of me wanted to warn her, to tell her not to ever expect much. But another part of me debated whether to give Ben a heads-up as it seemed like this was a serious issue for his new girlfriend and that she expected more attention to such things. Yet, a part of me resented having to teach him to be better about something he never tried with me. I also felt like it wasn\u2019t my place to interfere. After a moment, I typed back, \u201cHonestly, he\u2019s my ex for a reason. I can\u2019t say if he\u2019ll change or not, and I\u2019m not going to have the answers you need.\u201d I continued, \u201cIt\u2019s something you\u2019ll have to figure out together. Lovely meeting you, though.\u201dMonths went by without much thought about that night. Then, one evening, Ben called me out of the blue. \u201cLisa and I broke up,\u201d he said, sounding frustrated. \u201cWhat happened?\u201d I asked, genuinely curious. \u201cShe kept making a big deal out of nothing, busy complaining about birthdays and anniversaries. I told her it\u2019s not something I care about, and she just wouldn\u2019t let it go,\u201d he said, sounding furious. \u201cIt turned into this huge argument when I forgot our anniversary, and she left,\u201d he explained, his voice tinged with annoyance. I sighed, feeling a twinge of guilt as I wondered if I could\u2019ve helped them if I had been more supportive of Lisa when she texted me. \u201cBen, did she tell you it was important to her?\u201d I asked, feeling like my responses to Lisa played a part in their breakup. He was silent for a moment. \u201cShe told me on many occasions that such things were important to her.\u201d\u201cBut WHO CARES! You never made it a big deal,\u201d he said defensively. Tired of coddling him, I said, \u201cWell, sir, and that\u2019s why we divorced.\u201d \u201cThat\u2019s mean, Kim,\u201d my ex replied, sounding sad. \u201cLook, I\u2019m sorry, but I stopped trying because I knew it wouldn\u2019t matter to you,\u201d I replied calmly. \u201cBut that doesn\u2019t mean it wasn\u2019t important to me. Or to her. You have to meet people halfway.\u201d Ben grumbled something under his breath, and I could tell he wasn\u2019t ready to accept that truth. We ended the call on a neutral note, and I sat there, thinking about Lisa. She deserved someone who would appreciate her efforts and reciprocate her feelings. A few days later, I bumped into Lisa at the grocery store. She looked tired but managed a smile when she saw me. \u201cHi, how are you?\u201d she asked politely. \u201cI\u2019m good, thanks. How about you?\u201d I replied, genuinely concerned.\u201cI\u2019ve been better,\u201d she admitted. \u201cBen and I broke up.\u201d \u201cI heard,\u201d I said softly. \u201cI\u2019m sorry it didn\u2019t work out.\u201d She sighed. \u201cI couldn\u2019t deal with feeling unimportant. I tried to explain it to him, but he didn\u2019t seem to care.\u201d I nodded, understanding her frustration all too well. \u201cIt\u2019s hard when someone doesn\u2019t value what you do. You deserve someone who will.\u201d Lisa smiled sadly. \u201cThanks. I appreciate that. I guess I hoped he could change.\u201d \u201cChange is hard for some people,\u201d I said gently. \u201cBut don\u2019t lose hope. You\u2019ll find someone who values you.\u201d We parted ways, and I felt a strange sense of closure. Lisa\u2019s struggle mirrored my past frustrations, but it also highlighted how much I had grown since my marriage ended. I had learned to accept Ben\u2019s flaws, but I also realized that I deserved more than what he was willing to give. That evening, I sat down with my children and talked about their dad. I wanted them to understand that while he had his shortcomings, he loved them deeply. We laughed about his forgetfulness and shared stories of the good times we had as a family. As I reflected on everything, I felt a deep sense of peace. I had moved on from the hurt and disappointment and was ready to embrace whatever the future held. I hoped Lisa would find the happiness she deserved, and I knew that I had done the right thing by not getting too involved in their relationship. In the end, it wasn\u2019t about birthdays or anniversaries. It was about finding someone who truly valued and appreciated you for who you are. I did not doubt that Lisa would find that person someday, and I knew I was finally content with my own life. As I looked at my children, I felt grateful for the love and joy they brought into my life. We had our good and bad moments, but we were a family, and that was what mattered most. And as for Ben, I hoped he would eventually learn to value the important things in life. For now, I was happy. I had my kids, friends, and a sense of peace I hadn\u2019t felt in a long time. And that was more than enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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